Making your child independent
Unless their parents teach them, kids are too young to comprehend the idea of punctuality or taking responsibility for their actions. Unless you give your child the opportunities to do things on his own, make silly mistakes, & learn through them, he may become reliant on you for minor tasks. As the child gets older, you'll want to help him become self-sufficient in the appropriate way, because basic directions should never be used as a punishment. As a parent, you can gently guide your children in the right path with a few simple suggestions while allowing them to discover independence in their own time.
Why should children learn to be self-sufficient?
Your child may be too young at the moment, but he will eventually mature into a properly operational adult. Early life learning of several life skills can help him cope with the rigors of adulthood.
● Children require a long time to grasp the concept of making choices and deciding what is good for them. Children can begin to know themselves better and grasp what actually makes them happy by giving options early in their lives.
● There isn't always joy and happiness in life. There will be times when your youngster does not fulfil his obligations. However, if he is self-sufficient, he will identify his mistakes, seek your help, and be willing to learn how to do better.
● Self-esteem is formed in a person from a very young age. This can be amplified if a child begins to believe in himself as well as his own choices. Independence aids in this respect and gives a child a sense of worth from a young age.
● Although books contain information, learning can only be gained by action. There's a big difference between telling your child about a danger and your youngster actually encountering it. Being self-sufficient helps your child to begin learning new things on his own, take chances, and have a greater understanding of the world.
How Can You Teach Your Kids to Be Self-Reliant?
There are many methods to teach your child independence while yet allowing him to have the childhood he deserves.
Teach kids about money and how to save and spend it.
Buy a piggy bank & begin teaching your children about money management at a young age. Allow them to make their own decisions, but support and guide children to save enough for something they already desire. (If they waste their hard-earned money irresponsibly, they will learn the hard way.) My kids alternate between buying Hot Wheels and saving for larger expenditures such as an iPod.
Failures should not be a major concern.
There will be occasions when your child fails at doing something, and he will understandably be disappointed. Reassure him and tell him it's alright to make mistakes. Encourage him to learn through his mistakes, to pick himself up, and to try again. Despite your warnings, he may even repeat them. It's all right; let them learn from their errors. Do tell your child what he'd have done much better, but don't blame him for the failure. This has the potential to severely damage his self-esteem.
Encourage children to complete chores on their own.
When you believe your child is ready, give them some independence. Allow your youngster, for example, to go on solo bike rides or to the neighborhood playground with pals. Equip children with the skills they'll need to deal with a variety of circumstances, such as how to chat (or not talk) to strangers as well as how to cross a busy street. Going to trust them doing the right thing will, in the end, inspire independence.
Assign him tasks that he can handle.
Your kid does not have to begin managing the household finances or making major decisions. Self-reliance must begin with oneself, and this is where you can assist your child. If you're preparing a lunch and need your child's assistance, assign him modest chores such as drafting a list of products you'll need or packing his own suitcase for a brief weekend trip you'll be taking.
Allow your youngster to resolve problems on his or her own.
It's vital to be around for your kid during a disagreement or dispute whether on the field, on a sport, or at class, but it's equally critical to teach your kids how to manage it on their own. Teaching kids how to cope with disagreement responsibly will teach them how and where to manage emotions, talk about their thoughts, and, eventually, move forward—all very essential life lessons.